In a culture that rewards “being bold” and “putting yourself out

9 min readNov 26, 2020

That’s true because our feelings and emotions get involved when we deal with money! It’s kind of like what physicist Richard Feynman said when he wondered aloud about how much more difficult physics would be if electrons had feelings!

It’s unfortunate for Ratner because his record had been so stellar up until that moment. But his story is a testament to the sensitivity that positions of high authority bring. Repercussions only grow wider as the margins for error shrink.

When mere conformity is seen as mental health, we’re blinded to just how crazy parts of our society really are. Fromm never lived to see Facebook replace many of our in-person interactions, but he was keenly aware of how the latest technologies allowed modern militaries to kill real people thousands of miles away just by pushing a button.

Force of Nature is about a pair of San Juan cops who take on thieves looking for $55 million hidden inside a building evacuated because of Hurricane Maria. I know that’s a lot to unpack but wait, there’s more: the movie features Kate Bosworth, who is a pretty good actor. She was especially memorable as Lois Lane in Superman Returns. She co-stars with Emile Hirsch, who starred in Speed Racer, which is the Wachowski sisters’ third best movie after the original Matrix and Jupiter Ascending.

Saying in a calm voice, “Would you mind if we chatted for a moment?” or simply “May I talk to you?” is much more effective as it gives people the freedom to make their own decisions.

“Who will tell whether one happy moment of love, or the joy of breathing on a bright morning and smelling the fresh air, is not worth all the suffering and effort which life implies?” -Erich Fromm

Of equal importance — and recommendations you can begin to implement immediately to improve your relationships — he also shares his wisdom of which phrases should be avoided at all costs.

Of course, there are hundreds more excellent psychology books I could add, and who knows how many must-read books that I myself have never heard of? I honestly don’t even want to think about it!

According to George, the words “Because those are the rules!” — or the super annoying: “Because I said so” — makes you sound weak and it shows you do not have the knowledge to support your order with logical reasoning.

The best thing about The Psychology of Money is the friendly, convivial tone of Morgan Housel throughout, as he teaches us everything he’s learned about how to master our own psychology when it comes to money and spending.

Erich Fromm changed my entire life when I first read The Sane Society. Same with The Art of Loving, actually, where he says that love is the only rational answer to the problem of human existence. Amazing.

But if you haven’t heard of any of these, or if maybe you have heard of at least one of them but just haven’t found the time to read it yet, I hope I was able to stir up your curiosity a little bit. Remember, the cure for boredom is curiosity! Fortunately or unfortunately, there is no cure for curiosity.
Prior to joining the force, the talented martial artist — holding a Black Belt in both Judo and Taekwando — taught English at both the high-school and university level before receiving his post-doctorate from Princeton in rhetoric and persuasion.
Remember this the next time you have the urge to say, “Come here!” to anyone. Remind yourself that if you don’t like to hear these words the odds increase tremendously that you are not the only person who feels this way.
Ordering someone to come over to you may make you feel like you have authority. But when it comes to having people respect you phrases like “Come here,” have the opposite effect as even kids don’t want to be spoken to like they’re a child.

The godmother of minimalism is not without her critics. But while Kondo’s approach to materialism isn’t for everyone, she has given us a new vocabulary for dealing with all our stuff — and a framework for getting it done.

Three years after its initial publication in the author’s native Japan, the English translation of The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up catapulted Marie Kondo to international mega-stardom. In an age of accumulation fueled by one-click consumerism, Kondo’s “konmari” offers a simple formula for relief from the burden of clutter — literally and, perhaps, existentially.
But if you haven’t heard of any of these, or if maybe you have heard of at least one of them but just haven’t found the time to read it yet, I hope I was able to stir up your curiosity a little bit. Remember, the cure for boredom is curiosity! Fortunately or unfortunately, there is no cure for curiosity.

The words, “Because those are the rules,” don’t directly hit all of these 5 truths. But they do touch upon most of them. They show a lack of respect. They do not give people a choice. They are not informative.

Due to his love of education, martial arts, persuasion, and law enforcement, George created the only true Tactical Communication Course in the world which would later go on to form the work he is most known for — his book “Verbal Judo.”Oh, Force of Nature also stars 64-year-old Mel Gibson, a celebrity who has been “canceled” multiple times for reportedly making antisemitic and sexist remarks, including a recent accusation from Winona Ryder that Gibson once asked her if she was an “oven dodger,” which was an offensive reference to the Holocaust.Housel teaches that knowing what to do doesn’t really teach us anything about what happens in our heads when we actually try to do it. We all know that we should be saving for retirement, getting out of debt, following a budget, etc. And yet, when it comes to actually doing those things, our plans often fall apart.
On the flip-side, by explaining why something is the way it is you offer people a neutral piece of ground for them to stand on while opening the door for them to save face if they do end up complying with your explanation.
Although originally intended to better arm police officers with more effective words to de-escalate potentially violent situations instead of resorting to force, George’s teachings can also help us to properly navigate stressful situations both at home and in the workplace.

In a culture that rewards “being bold” and “putting yourself out

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